Escapism on a Fetish Site

Seller Sellers’ Perspective

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An escapism built for all

This site should be an escapism built for anyone who joins.

While I appreciate it’s not used as an escapism by everyone, for those who use it for that purpose, they should feel they can let go, feel free and take off that mask!

It’s so refreshing to be able to just dive and forget the pressures of everyday life for a little bit.

The reason I say it should be built for all is because as a seller I am also entitled to enjoy my time here, to feel relaxed, have fun, engage and have my escapism. I of course want buyers to have that, I’m pointing out it’s a 2 way street and that it’s as valid for me to be able to escape as it is a buyer or even better we escape together and get lost in our own imaginations and kinky fantasies.

A kinky environment

We need to create a positive, inviting and kinky environment! A place where people can let their hair down and have a good time.

The point of escapism is to seek distraction from reality for a while, so the last thing people need is to login and scroll to see drama or negativity, that’s exactly why some are seeking distraction in the first place. Seeing this just bursts the bubble and no buyer is going to want to reach for their wallet after that!

The dash needs to be filled with fun, engaging posts or polls, competitions and pics as well as listings not grievances or drama.

I know we sometimes need to occasionally get stuff of our chests or have a little rant , I know I do but I try my best to limit it and/ or keep it as light as I can, there is a difference between posts about showing respect or reminding people to use manners and saying stuff like all buyers this or all sellers that.

Why escapism is important

Escapism is throwing off the shackles of mundane responsibility and getting lost in something far more interesting, it is allowing yourself to feel like you can breathe instead of worrying about the food shop.

It is about letting off steam after a day at work, forgetting that your boss was rude again or that you were short staffed.

It is healthy to escape from time to time, escapism lets us be who we want to be for that period of time, to act out a fantasy in a sexting session or submit to a Domme.

In those moments we aren’t parents, employees or partners! We are instead just us, we are embracing our inner most desires or exploring something new, the mask is off, the world can wait!

How does kink help?

Everyone is different, as I have mentioned above it is to escape the everyday but speaking personally as well as that it has helped me with my confidence.

Kinks feels like an alter ego at times, she is who I want to be, but I realised I am her, I am the fiery, kinky, passionate woman with a passion to help others and in helping others I create an escapism for them and for me.

Kink has given me the confidence to escape and tap into my fantasies and creative side, to create unique listings and allow me to connect with others who enjoy the same thing.

Kink is and can be such a beautiful, freeing way to escape.

When I am on site, I am not what the outside world sees, I am not the woman buying milk in her leggings I am a Queen, a Domme, a dirty girl with a filthy tongue.

That escapism allows me to take my mask off, to indulge in devious and delicious role plays or naughty phone calls or whatever it may be and if I can help someone else do the same in a safe environment that is even better.

I know how important escapism is for some and how for some it is a need, the thing that helps them get through the day or week.

Can escapism become unhealthy?

We need a distraction from reality not a break from it entirely! So yes, I think it can become unhealthy if not managed responsibly.

Let us take finances for example, everyone needs something to look forward to, something to keep us going but it can get out of hand, spending too much on here is definitely a thing but don’t worry it doesn’t need to be!

My advice is….

Set a budget, whether that is weekly, daily, monthly or whatever is comfortable for you. Keep track of your spends, make a note of purchases and what they cost and see what’s left.

Take breaks from here, something that becomes as an escapism can become a tad addictive. If you need a break, take one! Maybe limit scrolling the dash, so once in the morning, once at night or go do some chores then come back.

We want escapism to be a healthy dose of fun and distraction.

Summary

So first off let me thank you for reading!

The community can be a great place, somewhere where we can come together and help each other escape as well as it being our own personal escapism.

Let’s be kind to each other and make this an inviting and exciting place to escape.

We get nagged at enough at work and in other areas of our life so when you login here logout of all that and enjoy some you time!

Stay kinky! X

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